相遇是偶然的，存在是必然的。
Encounters are accidental, existence is inevitable.
2016年偶然的机会去北京参加了平生的第一次团体关系会议，让我触目惊心，也让我耳目一新。接着的半年多，那几天的经历、人、事、体验、感受、场景不断地在我脑子里反刍，抽丝剥茧，不断有新的领悟和收获，对我个人、婚姻、家庭、工作、社会及世界的理解越来越清楚，越来越深入。让我越来越了解自己，越来越理解他人和这个世界，由表及里，由繁及简……从此走上了团体关系专业之路，一发而不可收。具体那些学习体会太多了，太复杂了，有的能说清楚，有的很难言说，见微信公众号：王旭梅心理空间
In 2016, I wentto Beijing by chance to participate in my first Group Relations Conference in my life, which shocked me and refreshed me. In the following half a year, the experiences, people, things, experiences, feelings, and scenes of those few days continued to regurgitate in my mind, making a painstaking examination, constantly gaining new insights and gains, and my understanding of myself, marriage, family, work, society and the world became clearer and deeper. It made me know more and more about myself, more and more understanding of others and the world, from the surface to the inside, from complexity to simplicity... Since then, I have embarked on the professional road of Group Relations, and I am unstoppable. The specific learning experience is too much, too complicated, some can be clearly explained, some are difficult to say, see WeChat Official Account: Wang Xumei psychological space
到目前为止，我参加了国内外、海内外地面、线上团体关系会议近30次，包括大团体、小团体、主任培训；从成员、受训顾问、小团体顾问、大团体顾问、行政助理主任、副主任，从去年开始我尝试学习做会议主任。经过5年的严格训练，今年3月份也得到了AKRI团体关系顾问的认证。在专业发展上，我也有幸成为AKRI（AKRI社会系统研究所）、CASSGO（中美团体与组织研究学会）的常委，和国内外的前辈、同行一起工作和学习。2022年初创立了IGRC（团体关系中国与世界：微信平台：GroupRelationsPractice、 网站：http://www.igrc.org.cn）和IGRC的co-creators一起工作、体验、学习。
Until now, I have participated in nearly 30 conferences in person and online Group Relations Conferences at home and abroad, including large group, small group, and director training; from membership, consultant in training, small group consultant, large group consultant, administrative assistant director, deputy director, all the way to last year, I have been trying to learn to be aconference director. After 5 years of rigorous training, I was also certified as an AKRI Group Relations Consultant in March this year. In terms of professional development, I have also been honored to become a board member of AKRI (A. K. Rice Institute for the Study of Social Systems) and CASSGO (China-America Society for the Study of Groups and Organizations), working and learning with seniors and peers at home and abroad. In early 2022, I founded International Group Relations China (IGRC, web site, WeChat Official Account) to work with, to experience and to learn together with IGRC's co-creators.
经历越来越多，体验越来越复杂，各种奇葩的经历也屡见不鲜，这让我对每一次团体关系会议的体验越来越敬畏、好奇、需要鼓起勇气面对未知的挑战。我的眼界、视角从个人-角色-系统不断地提升。从不知庐山真面目，只缘身在此山中到会当凌绝顶，一览众山小。
The increasing number of experiences, the complexity of the experiences, and the many strange experiences made me more and more awe-inspiring, curious, and courageous to face unknown challenges with every Group Relationship Conference experience. My vision and perspective are constantly improving from individual-role-system. In the past, for me it seems as if “I never know the true face of Lushan Mountain, because I am in this mountain.” Now it seems as if “I try to ascend the mountain's crest; it dwarfs all peaks under my feet.”
团体关系会议是一个临时的学习教育机构，不是团体治疗。通过体验式学习、反思、领悟可以越来越深地了解人性、了解自己、了解世界。而不是教-学的传统模式。作为中国文化教育背景下的我，开始时很不适应的，原来习惯别人喂到我的嘴里，现在我需要自己劈材、生火、做饭、做什么饭、如何做、怎么做好吃、和谁一起吃……但是，虽然需要勇气、需要走出舒适区、需要探索未知，收获却远远不是多一点点，而是越来越多，像滚雪球一样……让我从自己的房间走出来，走进灌木丛、走进森林、爬上山顶，从小山顶爬到越来越高的大山顶，没有最高，只有更高。
A Group Relations Conference is a temporary educational institution for learning, not group therapy. Through experiential learning, reflection and comprehension, one can understand human nature, oneself and the world more and more deeply, and it’s not a traditional model of teaching-learning. As having a Chinese culture and education background, I was very uncomfortable at the beginning, because I used to be fed into my mouth by others, and now I need to chop wood, make fires, cook, and think about how to cook, how to eat, with whom... However, although it takes courage, it takes to step out of the comfort zone, and to explore the unknown, the gains are far from a little more, but more and more, like a snowball... Let me get out of my room, into the bushes, into the forest, up the mountain, from the top of the hill to the top of the bigger and higher mountain. There is no highest, only higher.
纸上得来终觉浅，绝知此事要躬行。
Learning from paper is limited, I finally realized that I had to experience it myself.